Marriage: For Time and All Eternity

You may be wondering what a fifteen-year-old girl knows about marriage. Well, I know that in most wedding ceremonies the vows end in “till death do you part,” or “as long as you both shall live.” These types of weddings come with a bitter-sweet feeling for me and most LDS members because although it’s awesome that two people love each other enough to get married and want to be together, we also know that those final words are wrong; that’s not how marriage is supposed to be.

Our church (the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints) believes that marriages—and families—are forever. I want you to really stop and think about that: forever. It’s a word that’s thrown around so much that it sometimes loses its meaning, but when you really stop to think about it, it’s pretty amazing. When you get married to someone, it is a covenant—an everlasting promise—not only with that person, but with God as well. God made man and woman to be together. We believe that “Marriage between a man and woman is ordained of God and is central to the Creator’s plan for the eternal destiny of His children,” (The Family: A Proclamation to the World). It’s another way he expresses his love to us, and that love, that bond, doesn’t have to end after death. It can be for eternity.

This brings me to my second point. If you’re going to be with someone forever, you want to choose wisely. I’ve had multiple lessons (in Sunday School, or talks at activities) where I’ve been asked by my leaders to make a list of what I look for in a future spouse. When they ask this they’re not looking for, “I want a husband who’s 6’ 2” with brown curly hair and blue eyes.” What they mean is for us to think of what’s truly important. What do they value? What are their standards and priorities? That’s what matters. After your list is done and you have your “perfect spouse” outlined comes the challenge—to live worthy of them. You can’t expect someone to be something if you’re not willing to be it yourself. So the challenge is to look at your list and become the person you want your future spouse to be.

In our church, a marriage is called a “sealing” because the two people are being sealed to each other for time and all eternity. When a couple is sealed, any children that they may have together are also automatically sealed to them, so families are forever. This is a wonderful and beautiful concept. I love my family—don’t get me wrong, we’re not perfect, and we’re possibly the craziest of any family I know, but I don’t know where I’d be without them. It’s such a comfort to know that no matter what happens on this earth—death, separation, divorce, etc. —that in heaven I will be able to see them and be with them again. No matter what happens here on earth, you can be with your loved ones again, for time and all eternity.

2 Responses to “Marriage: For Time and All Eternity”

  1. Erik says:

    This doesn’t make sense…

    All people would be “sealed” together in one place.

    • Kylie says:

      I’m sorry, but I don’t understand what doesn’t make sense to you, or what you mean by we would all be sealed together in one place

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